Job Search After Action Review - Part 3

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Practice the Golden Rule

Speaking of others, the title of this section is never bad advice. Keep negativity to yourself and express positivity outwards. Anyone that knows me...knows that this a very big struggle for me. But seriously, just keep the good karma flowing, pay it forward, all that touchy-feely malarkey. I am here to tell you, it works.

Even if it doesn't...why act like a jerk? It just makes you, and others, miserable. This is a new revelation for me. I used to have a theory:

Mack's Finite Joy Theory

This is a really messed up way of thinking, and it would always get a chuckle at cocktail parties...and an outright guffaw at the sports bar. Here are the main tenants.

  1. There is only so much joy in the world. A finite amount.
  2. At any given point in time, you should try to grab as much joy for yourself as possible. Even if you are already joyous, you should horde as much joy as possible, since there is only so much of it.
  3. If you are not able to grab some joy for yourself, you owe it to your future self to deprive others of joy as efficiently as possible, which will keep the maximum amount of joy in the available pool for later.

See, usually worth a chuckle or two. There was a minor issue with this approach, though - it is how I lived my life. Most of the time. Not good for really anything, unless you are a bona fide sociopath and take joy in the pain of others. If I'm being honest, I suspect there was a little of that at play as well, but it's something I continue to work on. Can you be a little bit of a sociopath? I digress.

Let's bring it back around, shall we? Treat people the way you would want to be treated. Keep that in the front of your mind at all times...and seek to bring it to the front of your mind, especially when your first reaction is "to hell with that guy - I don't owe him anything"...and you can't go too far wrong.

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Joe Mack

Joe Mack

Joe Mack is the creator of this blog. He is an Enterprise Transformation consultant with over 30 years of leadership and technology experience.

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